Muddle Mayhem

Decluttering my home – and life – one piece of junk at a time…

I need help!

My house is a disaster! It’s worse than that! It’s almost not liveable in here!

How do I let it get this way and how do these people who live with me put up with it? They are absolutely no help and TOTALLY OK with the mayhem.

I’M NOT!

I just came downstairs to blog on the computer but first I had to move dishes, a lamp and alarm clock. Why is a lamp and alarm clock sitting in from of the keyboard??? I’ll never know! But I do know that it caused me to tear up. I’m sick of this mess! I want out of this mess.

I look room to room and see clutter. Stuff we shouldn’t own yet here it is. And why? Didn’t I declutter this place to an outstanding beautiful home not that long ago? I really don’t get it and I need help. I need a lot of help but don’t know where to turn.

This blog is suppose to be about the positive changes in my routines and cleaning habits. Right now, there is nothing positive to report. And I had dedicated this day to clean but I have NO IDEA where to start. How did I start last time?

Back in May, I got a new job as a nanny. This requires me to care for children AND maintain a household. Guess what? I have no trouble with either task.

So why is it so hard for me with my own house?

Clutter – It is such a huge mess that I have no desire/motivation to tackle it when I get home from work.

So here’s the plan

Step 1.

Reread blog to freshen my memory on how all this got started.

As I’m reading my past post, I can hear the frustration in my words. There was A LOT of work to be done. The bright side is, even though I still have a lot of decluttering and cleaning, I don’t have any furniture to move and everything has a home somewhere since we assigned and organized it all last winter.

Out of 74 posts, here’s what stands out the most:

  • I started with the kitchen because it is the most important room in the house
  • I discovered I didn’t have to be a nagging monster if I simply provided the home everyone deserved
  • I know that my family is not going to cooperate with my motivation and so I have to find a way to be patient, tight-lipped and just go through the motions of keeing this place clean on my own
  • The sad truth about clutter
  • Never wait for the last minute to deal with a mess
  • 52 small project list is an awesome idea but until I regain some control here, I’m putting this on the back burner
  • Menu plans are a must
  • I really enjoyed doing (and rereading) the picture analysis & productive list posts

One last thing, I complained A LOT of headaches in my posts… but I’m happy to announce that my doctor started me on blood pressure medication in January and I haven’t had a headache since!!!

Step 2.

Create a list of goals

  • Designate an area in the house for items we want to get rid of
  • Unescapable daily chores: Dishes, Laundry, Cooking, Keeping floors cleared, Dining room table, Bathrooms
  • As I’m waiting for dinner to cook at work, I walk room to room and clear any messes that might have accumulated throughout the day. I have to bring this habit home!
  • Make a list of rooms in order of clutterness (best to worse)
  • Continue with to-do lists however stop waiting for scheduled times to clean
  • Have ONE go-through box at a time
  • Instead of a Maintenance day, I shall have a maintenance hour
  • I cannot overwhelm myself with challenges
  • Declutter, donate and revisit these sections daily

Step 3.

Implement new habits.

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It’s been 6 months…

Rereading my last post entry sounds sooooo exciting, so uplifting. Our house had been approved and we were going forth with our foster care application.

I remember writing it like it was yesterday yet it feels like ages ago!

As I had mentioned in other posts and pages, my biggest fear was my past. However I was reassured time and time again that the past was the past and the future is now.

Our house had been approved, we sent in our application and required forms. We were now waiting for the green light to go ahead with the home study and course. On February 20th, we received the call we had been waiting for.

We’re sorry Mr & Mrs Muddle Mayhem but your past is denying you your dreams.

Ok so they didn’t word it that way… what they said was:

  • You chose a violent man over the safety of your children.
  • The workers you worked with then would have a hard time working with you now.
  • We can’t put your children through the trauma of the application knowing you won’t be approved in the end
  • AND once you’ve been through depression, you never get over it.

WHAT?!?!?!?!?!?!

I cried.

I called the supervisor and cried some more (showing just how mature I was there!)

I pleaded, I begged.

They told me that I couldn’t appeal their decision.

I felt absolutely defeated. 12 years of rebuilding my life and still the past haunts me!

That was 5 months ago. Have I gotten over it? Heck no! Am I accepting their decision? Nope. Am I realizing that I still needed to grow and better myself. Oh YEAH!

I received a letter in the mail saying I can re-apply in 5 years. I may, or may not. I honestly don’t know. The possibility of being turned down a third time is frightening.

So that was the bad news… here’s the worse news!

I haven’t been able to keep the mayhem at bay! It’s bad in here!!!!

This blog helped me  A LOT (along with the foster care motivation) and I’ve always wanted to keep a blog all about me and my crazy life/thoughts/struggles. I’m not sure how it’s all going to merge together yet but my goals are to post something on a regular basis, recover this house to a liveable state and expose all the lemons that are thrown at me on a daily basis.

On a brighter note, I quit my waitressing job once I secured a nanny position. I’m still able to care for children, just not in my home. These kids are amazing and I’m getting paid really well.  Life is good right now.

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I did it! I really did it!

I haven’t posted in a few days because honestly, it’s been way too overwhelming. But I will tell you this:

MY HOUSE LOOKS AWESOME

It looks great, it feels incredible and the best news of all…

Our house was approved yesterday to go forth with our foster care application.

Needless to say that paperwork was filled out within minutes and I’ll be on my way to deliver them this morning.

THIS IS REALLY HAPPENING!!!

Now that the house is looking so wonderful, it’s time to maintain it. I need a plan!

I still have loads of work to do: Basement, Garage and Bean’s bedroom. And with the calendar year should come a new 52 small project list. These are all things I’ll be working on in the next few days.

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Jan 8 Todo/Tadas

I am feeling extremely nauseous at the moment. Why? Because I asked for volunteers to help me clean my house. Today is the day those volunteers are coming over and I’m not ready. My house is still a mess. I’m stressing over this and I really shouldn’t! These volunteers are here to help me with the mess right? It’s a catch 22! But still I’m very nauseous knowing they are on their way.

So far today, I’ve:

  • cleaned the kitchen
  • organized the donations pile which hubby is on his way to drop it all off as I type this
  • started dinner
  • attempted to sweep

There is sooooo much to do and I don’t know where to start! Here’s the list

Main Floor

  • Front hall
  • White Shelf
  • Wash floors

Bathroom #1

  • Organize under sink
  • Organize cupboard

Master Bedroom

  • My night table
  • Deal with the unmatched socks bins
  • Vaccuum

Baby’s Room

  • Clear office furniture
  • Vaccuum
  • Place baby furniture

Hallway

  • Vaccuum

Office

  • Bring the couch up to living room
  • Move office furniture
  • Put stuff away (books)
  • Start clearing boxes

Hubby’s Todo’s list

  • Patch and paint and hang bedroom doors
  • Find electricity solution for aquariums
  • Move the aquariums
  • Buy and hang curtain rod for our room
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Jan 6 Todos/Tadas

I originally posted this on Jan 5th but didn’t scratch one thing off of it! Imagine… 😦

So I’m just changing the posted date!

I might as well copy and paste the whole list until it’s all done!

  • ** Work from 2-7 **
  • Come to the realization that I only have 3 days to tackle this list <insert super shocked face>

Main Floor

  • Front hall
  • White Shelf
  • Fold Laundry
  • Kitchen

Maintenance

  • Donation pile
  • Knitting corner

Bathroom #1

  • Organize under sink
  • Organize cupboard

Master Bedroom

  • Hang my clothes in the closetImagine, I can actually walk to the closet now AND open the closet AND have room to hang my clothes AWESOME!
  • My floorHonestly I had originally planned to just box it all up and send it in the basement but I actually sat my butt down on the floor and went through it all. These were piles of papers, books, pictures, etc that got tossed on the floor when we moved the desk. Mature right? MOST OF IT went in the garbage/recycling!!!!!
  • Also went through 3 boxes
  • My night table
  • Deal with the unmatched socks bins
  • Corner pile
  • Hubby’s dresser
  • Vaccuum

Baby’s Room

  • Clear office furniture
  • Vaccuum
  • Place baby furniture

Hallway

  • Clear & Vaccuum
  • Place laundry basket

Office

  • Bag laundry
  • Bring the couch up to living room
  • Move office furniture
  • Put stuff away (books)
  • Start clearing boxes

Hubby’s Todo’s list

  • Patch and paint and hang bedroom doors
  • Patch and mount hand rail
  • Find electricity solution for aquariums
  • Move the aquariums
  • Buy and hang curtain rod for our room

I have to be all done by Sunday because on Monday, I want to sort Bean’s room and clean the entire house from top to bottom…

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Decluttering Calendar

Beth over at My Simpler Life releases a great Decluttering Calendar every year. And every year, I print it out and put on the fridge… never to look at it again. The idea is great. The intentions are really there but I simply haven’t had the right brain environment to go through with the plan!

This year is a little different. For one, I have a blog I love to chat on and show my progress. And two, I’ve been on this mission for the past two months. This is exactly what I’m doing. So why not give this list another try. Except this time, I’m NOT going to print it out. Oh no no no no no… that’s just more clutter. I’ll just link it up here to visit every day. I like that idea much much better! 😉

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Jan 4 Todo/Tada

I might as well copy and paste the whole list until it’s all done!

But first thing is first:

  • Call the society – Our appointment is next Tuesday!!!!
  • Run a few errands
  • Can’t forget I work at 2
  • Laundry

Now I can tackle some of ‘the list’!

Main Floor

  • Front hall
  • White Shelf
  • Kitchen
  • Aquariums

Maintenance

  • Donation pile
  • Knitting corner
  • Laundry pile

Bathroom #1

  • Organize under sink
  • Organize cupboard

Master Bedroom

  • Hubby’s night table
  • Put Laundry away
  • My dresser – My sweet and beautiful Minime helped me with this
  • My floor
  • My night table
  • Corner pile
  • Hubby’s dresser
  • Vaccuum

Baby’s Room

  • Make the bed
  • Spend waaaay too much time looking at nursery themes and colours
    • Narrow it downeither Green with earth tones or Silver and purple…
  • Clear office furniture
  • Vaccuum
  • Place baby furniture

Hallway

  • Clear & Vaccuum
  • Place laundry basket

Office

  • Bag laundry
  • Bring the couch up to living room
  • Move office furniture
  • Put stuff away (books)
  • Start clearing boxes
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Resolutions?!?

I have to take a moment to bring something to my own attention.

It’s 2012 – It’s not just another day… it’s a new year. And in every other aspect in my life, it doesn’t make a difference.

But I have to force myself to make one.

I’ve spent the last two months decluttering this home little by little. My main floor looks amaaaaazing! And although I’m not one to make any resolutions just because we’ve hung a new calendar on the wall, I want to ensure that I’m going to upkeep the hard work I’ve put forth.

I don’t want to be among the people that make grand plans just to fail them 3 weeks later.

  • I’m not going to promise to lose 50 lbs (although that would be awesome!) however I do want to make an effort in meal planning which leads to healthier eating.
  • I’m not going to promise to exercise every day however I do want to make use of the new Kinect games we got for Christmas and since our living room is decluttered now, we actually have the room to just plop and play! I do also have a YMCA membership that I don’t take advantage of so maybe I can work on dragging my butt over since I love their spinning classes! Something I’d like to eventually incorporate in my busy schedule.
  • I’m not going to promise to keep my house clean at all times however I am going to maintain what I’ve accomplished and I will tackle the rest in small weekly projects.

I have sooo much to look forward to in the next few months. No need to distract myself with planning and failing resolutions 🙂

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Jan 3 Todo/Tada

So I did it – I called the society this morning but she’s away until tomorrow…. LOL

That’s OK. That gives me a whole day to work on the rest of the house. I spent some time writing every task down to help me stay focus. I won’t be finishing this list today but hopefully, I’ll attack a good chunk of it! Besides, I do have some errands to run today as well.

Here it is…

Main Floor

  • Front hall
  • White Shelf
  • Kitchen
  • Aquariums

Maintenance

  • Donation pile
  • Knitting corner
  • Laundry pile

Bathroom #1

  • Organize under sink
  • Organize cupboard

Master Bedroom

  • Make my bed with brand new sheets
  • Clear hubby’s flooreverything is now on my bed
  • Closet panel A
  • Closet panel B
  • Closet panel C
  • Bed

Even though I only completely one side of the floor and the closet today, the room already feels lighter. Only two bins left on that side – clothes to go through and donations. On my bed is a bin of unmatched socks. I’m going to pop a movie in and start matching!

  • Hubby’s night table
  • My dresser
  • My floor
  • My night table
  • Corner pile
  • Hubby’s dresser
  • Vaccuum

Baby’s Room

  • Clear office furniture
  • Vaccuum
  • Place baby furniture

Hallway

  • Clear & Vaccuum
  • Place laundry basket

Office

  • Bag laundry
  • Bring the couch up to living room
  • Move office furniture
  • Put stuff away (books)
  • Start clearing boxes

Broken down like this, it really doesn’t seem to be that bad!!! Off I go…

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1 more sleep…

There is only one more sleep until I call the society for our application.

One more sleep…

I told hubby I’m not ready.

WHAT?!?!?!

Am I getting cold feet? Aboslutely not… just a little nervous! Although my main floor looks FABULOUS, the rest of the house isn’t ready. I am not at peace with sending in our application when my house isn’t ready – we are not ready.

It took us two months to get this far. What’s one more week or two to make sure everything is in order?

What’s left on my todo list:

  • Move the aquariums
  • Clear the hallway white shelf
  • Arrange the office and start setting up the computers
  • Our bedroom

But then something inside me screams: GO FOR IT ANYWAY!!!!! lol

So tomorrow I will call to find out when the classes start and I will ‘possibly’ make an appointment for our first home visit next week or the next. It only makes sense right?

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